Mother’s Day for Manual Processors (MPLs): A BTG Survival Guide

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Now, the blog post!

Mothers Day for MPEs (Auto and Hyper Processors) is generally a very important and special day. It means ALOT to them. I’m writing this because I just realized Mother's Day is SNEAKING UP on us (about 8 days away!). BUT it’s not too late to pull off an amazing day.

I know that’s soon. BUT For the Mannies that have the tools, this is actually plenty of time to come up with a plan. If you have not learned the tools, you can literally watch the zoom presentation today linked here and still apply these tips and have success. We also have the Mother's Day course to watch! This helps you process the purpose and function of Mother's Day and helps you utilize your tools in real life applications.

I know it doesn’t seem like enough time but the tools automate your brain. Otherwise, all you can do it brace yourself for impact. You have nothing to lose if you try to learn the tools.

But again, This survival guide is for the mannies who have been taught the tools, if you have not learned the tools, DO NOT attempt until you have watched the Zoom Presentation linked above. (If you are curious, read on)

NOTE: For many of you this is your first time being able to show your SO how much you value and are grateful for her on this day. While you may have valued her in the past, it may have been difficult for you to show her in ways she could understand or appreciate. While many of these things may come more naturally to you now (depending on when you learned the tools) I find it’s helpful to speak logically to your analytical brain still. This is how to speak your loved ones language on Mother's Day specifically. Have open and honest conversations with each other before the day to rid yourselves of anxiety and stress.

Disclaimer this is not a complete list of instructions! Please have open conversations with your loved ones. You DO NOT need to do everything I suggest, its just ideas.

MOTHERS DAY- This lives in your Loved One Box.

Purpose: The purpose of Mother’s Day is to acknowledge the hard work, efforts, and sacrifice of any woman who is a mother, like a mother, gives support to others SIMILAR to a mother. This is NOT just about your own mother. If your spouse has children that are not your children, she should still be recognized by YOU. If your spouse or SO does NOT have children, but is WANTING To be a mother, it’s best to also include them in this day of gratitude so they don’t feel left out. (Specifically if you do not have children, and would have liked or still desire that, the goal of the day is to honor your Significant other as a prospective mother and maintain your confidence that you appreciate and believe they will be an excellent mother when given the chance).

It’s appropriate to honor Any mother figure (step mother, adopted mother, grandmother, caretaker)

This does NOT mean YOU have to personally honor every woman on this day. Choose the ones closest to you, (your SO is top priority, and then your own mother, if you have more resources you can branch out. But the mother figures closest to you is who you focus on.)

Benefit of Mother’s Day: The day set apart to help you remember to appreciate all

the mother figures in your life. The benefit is your loved ones happiness, the increase in the strength of your relationships, the happy memories you create and many many more.

Measurement: Risk/return your risk Vs your loved ones happiness. This day and the desire to be recognized comes from THEIR own Necessary Box.

Goal/objective:

The overall goal of the day is to create HAPPY, POSITIVE, memories and make your loved one feel appreciated. Depending on how they feel loved the most (love languages are acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, or physical touch.)

In general, because mothers are doing so much for the people they love, appreciation can easily be shown by giving them a well deserved break with a smile and happy disposition.If you give someone a break, but look, act, sound, like it’s inconveniencing you to any degree, it will no longer feel like a gift. This is why it’s important to plug this day and the activities into your enrichment box worksheet.

We’re NOT suggesting you are to kill your self to make your loved one feel happy. No one can control the day to be perfect. The goal is to handle the day in as flexible way as possible. You will use the beyond control box and the enrichment box interchangeably as appropriate.

It’s not only about fulfilling a specific request; ie: breakfast in bed. But the attitude it’s being delivered with. If you mess up somewhere or your kids mess up as you assist them, file to beyond control immediately, assess your resources for a solution, if there isn’t one, remind yourself to let your brain rest, you can’t control this one. Bring it with a smile, it’s the thought and effort that counts, (and don’t be offended if she orders Uber eats after that so she can eat non-burnt food! Lol)

Your efforts were NOT wasted as long as you maintain an attitude of gratitude for her. Even by messing up breakfast, you help understand and have compassion for her. How many times has she attempted to do something for you and the family and it failed? (Has she ever burned food, cracked a shell in the eggs, etc? Now you relate to her in a new way)

Ideas:

Overall attitude: (plug this concept into your risk assessment chart.) Treat her like YOUR queen. Not just any queen. YOURS. A queen is valuable, a queen is important, a queen is worthy of your time, energy, resources, etc…

How active your role is in the day:

Young children/no children/no children at home: If you have young children or children who do not know how to show they appreciate her, your role is going to be very prominent. You will actively be doing the work of the day while modeling the type of behavior your children should be doing in the future. The children should be there to watch, help if possible, and present gifts, etc… this is crucial to train them for future years. If you have young, young children and it may be impossible to not outsource. You may need to order breakfast, brunch, dinner, or get help from someone to pull off the day, consider your resources and assess what’s reasonable for you.

Older (8-18) children: When your children are older, you are more of the “project manager/stage director.” Your involvement varies based on age appropriate demands. If you have an 8 and 10 year old, you will be more involved than if you have competent 16, 18, and 22 year olds living at home. For example, you will be assisting them by giving them ideas, helping them shop for food, wake them up kindly to make breakfast, help them make the food, present the food, etc..

Your job is to make sure the day runs smoothly by delegating responsibilities, having a backup plan for when children make mistakes (count on mistakes happening and put it in beyond control)

The goal of your job is to be showing her she is special, resolving conflict quickly, kindly keeping children focused and facilitating a team effort.

Ideas for the day based on love language: (choose a few things to do, or whatever you are capable of- consult your BTG Well-Being Assessment Chart)

Your spouse/ SO will be very happy you are putting in so much effort. You can explain you’re worried you won’t have the mental energy or resources to do the day justice and give her EVERY thing she deserves, you can have a straightforward conversation and ask her what she would appreciate the most on this day. While you will treat her awesome during this day especially, it may help alleviate BOTH of you to spread the festivities out over the week (and may be more reasonable if you need help having someone help with the kids, but for example, Send her to get a massage during the next week, go shopping to pick out a gift, spend time together) Everything doesnt need to be done ON mothers day, BUT what IS mandatory on mothers day (if you would like to make your SO feel loved) is still the overall atmosphere and feel of the day.

****The following ideas build on TOP of your overall loving attitude and your disposition, these are two things within your control as you use of your enrichment and beyond control box. You retain the power and control over yourself*****

Acts of service:

Breakfast in bed: This is big at our house. Make sure to get all the supplies the day before, make sure to let the kids know you have a plan for the food you buy. If cooking is not something you are capable of doing. ORDER breakfast to be delivered before she wakes up and present it on a beautiful tray. Presentation is important. Make it look extra special than just any ordinary breakfast day. Even if that means plucking a flower from outside.

Let her sleep in- If your loved one usually gets the kids up and ready, tell her you WILL do it. Plan for that by doing all you can within your power to get enough sleep the night before (not at her expense though). So for example, instead of staying up late Saturday night watching TV or playing video games, organize and prepare yourself for the day ahead by getting the things you need (food for breakfast, for dinner, etc…)

No working rule: make it a game with the kids (or yourself) that she can’t “lift a finger” to do chores or responsibilities around the house (unless she wants to)

So no dishes (and don’t leave them in the sink for Monday either) no making the bed, or cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming, etc.. this does Not mean that is DOESNT get done. It won’t be a gift if the house goes to crap. It must be reassigned to someone else. But as with everything else, mistakes and anything undesirable must be filed in beyond control right away and trouble shooted. Accept childrens best efforts and maintain love and patience above all.

Quality time:

Let her relax and take a bath, let her have lunch with her mother, (call your mom while she’s gone and let her know you love her and are grateful for her, if applicable)

Self care: many times moms dont even get the basic self care, its important to make sure she gets that today bare minimum. Let her shower and do her hair in peace.

Pampering: does she like getting her nails done with her mom or friends? Make sure she’s feeling pampered.

Gifts:

Flowers: this may be appropriate depending on if she LIKES flowers. Consider asking if she would like them. Remember, Flowers are not a One and done thing. Presentation is half of the job. Make sure to find an appropriate vase, make sure they have water. Make sure to get them the night before and hide them if possible so it can be a surprise. If she or someone spoils the surprise. Shrug that off to Beyond control.

Actual gifts: Is there something she actually wants? Do not buy your wife diamonds if you don’t have the money and she doesn’t like them. Does she like spending money? Would she appreciate something little as a token that you were thinking of her? The motive behind this love language is the time and thoughtfulness to pick something out or give what they want most (which may be a gift card to a favorite restaurant, or

Words of affirmation:

Cards: Cards are an excellent way to be able to help you articulate your feelings and get the juices flowing. We know you love and appreciate her. Tell her why. She loves to hear this and will cherish this.

Letters: same thing. But longer. Take time today or tomorrow. Do it before Sunday. Type it, or write it. Reflect on all you have overcome together and your efforts as parents, if you can’t find the words. Don’t stress, and don’t be ashamed to google ideas for inspiration to get juices flowing. (I do that when designing cakes!)

Dedicate a song: Is there a song that matches how you feel?

Send texts/gifs: Sometimes words are hard, send gifs to convey a message. Send sporadic texts through the day as you think of the things you love about her.

Leave notes around the house: get creative as this pertains to your life and family. Leave notes around the house with thoughts of gratitude that pertain to the area of the house, get silly, romantic, or somber. Whatever fits your life and relationship (For example, leaving a note she will find in the fridge thanking her for always doing the shopping, in the car, or bathroom, or bedroom, or kids room)

Write on the mirror: Leave a message she will see when she wakes up (make sure its washable)

Physical Touch:

Foot massage: Maybe offer to give a foot rub, use a foot soaker and lotion (use enrichment box!)

Shoulder/and Back massage: Does she like this? Will she appreciate this from you or a professional? You can ask her and see whats reasonable for your resources.

Prepare as much as you can the day before. Get your kids in on the plans, be secretive, but SMILE when you act secretive. It makes it fun and silly.

I know this WILL NOT be applicable to everyone. SO again, PLEASE talk with your loved ones about what you are hoping for.

Sean was telling me he still needs to get me a gift and I told him he WAS my gift. LOL thats how I feel about him. I don’t even mind shopping for something I like later, he’s so loving to me during the day and making me feel important, it makes everything else not even matter.

Above all, communicate, don’t stress.